3 Modern Obstacles to a Healthy Marriage
If this story, about a couple married for 62 years who died 4 hours apart, coque iphone xr transparente chien does not make you sigh just a little, wellI’m not sure you have a soul.
Or how about the story about Fred Stobaugh, the 96 year old widower who wrote an ode to his late wife, “Sweet Lorraine,” and entered it in a song writing contest If you can watch the video without tearing up, don’t bother reading on. You’re just not human.
Why do stories like these touch our hearts in such a moving way I think it’s coque galaxie s10 plus because stories like these so clearly demonstrate the lifelong commitment marriage is meant to be. Till death do us part. We say the words, and we see in them an ideal to aspire to, something we all long to attain, and yet not all of us do.
It’s cliche to lament divorce statistics, but in an attempt to combat the problem of rising divorce rates and declining marriage rates, let’s take a look at some cultural problems that can be obstacles to healthy marriages.
1. We have a mixed up idea of married love.
It’s normal to go coque a70 samsung stitch into marriage with some expectation of romance and lovey dovey stuff. After all, that’s how people wind up wanting to get married in the first place. They fall in love, they have a romantic relationship, and they are so crazy about each other that they can’t wait to start “together forever.” That’s awesome. That’s fun. coque samsung avec anneau That’s how God intends for couples to coque squishy samsung a5 2017 begin.
Every healthy marriage, no matter what stage its in, does have some coque de telephone samsung j3 2017 measure of romantic love. Just as people have different personalities, though, different galaxie s8 plus coque marriages do coque paillettes galaxy s7 too, and most marriages don’t maintain that full force “romantic” feeling forever. And we should not expect them to.
When people mix up married love with romantic love, they coque custodia cover fundas hoesjes j3 j5 j6 s20 s10 s9 s8 s7 s6 s5 plus edge d17350 classic mickey and minnie mouse 1 samsung galaxy note 9 case wrongly feel that their marriage is in decline when the romance begins to fade. There are fewer rose petal baths and more insurance premiums. There are no more love songs and an awful lot of day to day drudgery.
Fading romance in a culture that tells couples they can quit when it gets hard, leave when they “fall out of love,” or their spouse “doesn’t make them happy anymore,” is a recipe for discouragement and the kinds of negative, selfish thoughts that can lead to divorce.
2. We fail at self giving love.
This is a problem I have observed coque huawei y7 2018 bts even among very “faithful” Catholics who know and love a lot about their faith. Somehow, we as a Church have samsung galaxy a50 coque japon failed to help some husbands and wives hear and understand that their call to marriage is a call to make a total gift of self to their spouse.
St. John Paul II emphasizes the importance of “self gift” in Gaudium et Spes:
Man, who is the only creature on earth which God willed for itself, cannot fully find himself except through a sincere gift of himself.
That “sincere gift of self” he mentions is a daily coque custodia cover fundas hoesjes j3 j5 j6 s20 s10 s9 s8 s7 s6 s5 plus edge b22793 iron man comic j0711 samsung galaxy note 10 case call to sacrifice, and I will coque samsung coque custodia cover fundas hoesjes j3 j5 j6 s20 s10 s9 s8 s7 s6 s5 plus edge d38803 puebla fc samsung galaxy s7 edge case j3 rouge let you in on a little secret: It’s not feel good stuff. It hurts. Like sacrifice always does. That’s why they call it sacrifice.
In my own life, I have seen what look like coque custodia cover fundas hoesjes j3 j5 j6 s20 s10 s9 s8 s7 s6 s5 plus edge b21793 hatake khakashi j0322 samsung galaxy s10 5g case “perfect” marriages on the outside fall apart on the inside because of a failure of one or both of the spouses to recognize this simple fact: Love comes first. Charity above all things. You can be an otherwise “perfect” Catholic couple earning a decent living, setting up a home, having children and educating them well but if you fail to recognize the importance of loving your spouse with self giving love, you are failing. At the most important thing. None of that other stuff matters.
We aren’t all perfect at self sacrifice, of course, and in a healthy marriage there is plenty of room for mistakes, mercy, and forgiveness. The fundamentally important coque galaxy s7 slim call to hear, however, is the call to love one another and to fully find yourself through a “sincere gift of self” to your spouse. That kind of love isn’t just “nice if you can find it”; it’s what marriage is.
3. We misunderstand the importance of vocation.
Vocation is a tough concept for many of today’s younger generations to understand. The coque huawei p9 lite darty idea of a calling not a job, but a calling to marriage, priesthood, or religious life is a foreign one to many. When we fail to recognize marriage as a calling, however, we belittle it. Culturally, it becomes a hobby or something nice to do “if you’re into that kind of thing.” It certainly isn’t something you would sacrifice your career for.
But our culture lets young people know that career goals can trump marriage. Travel plans can take precedence. There’s no hurry.
The coque samsung a5 2016 comics sad result is that when people get married later in life, there is less likelihood that they will meet their spouses when both are ready to make a commitment, and there are fewer marriage ready men and women in the dating pool even for those who are looking seriously for a spouse.
If marriage is a vocation, that means it’s your life’s work; it’s not a job and not something you do on the side. It’s something you do first, and then build to rest of your life around, not something you try to fit in later, once you’ve saved up enough coque huawei ascend g300 money and you’ve accomplished “more important” things.
The saddest part of cultural obstacles to healthy marriage is that they negatively affect a lot of innocent people who desperately want to answer a call to marriage. They want to find their spouse, get married, begin a life long commitment, and practice self giving love. But our culture sometimes gets in coque galaxy s8 incassable the way.
The good news, though, is that our God is an awesome God. The power of an anti marriage culture may be great, but God is greater and He works with what we give Him. All of us, married, single, divorced, coque samsung a5 girly widowed, dating, or something in between, can pray every day for the grace we need to live out Christ’s call to perfection in an imperfect world…